A Woman’s Place of Safety – Part 2

This is part two of the original blog called “A Woman’s Place of Safety”

In the first part we saw that a woman has a place of safety when first, she stays under the authority of her man (most often her father or husband).

To the woman He said: “I will greatly multiply your sorrow and your conception; in pain you shall bring forth children; your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you.” (Gen 3:16)

Secondly, when she serves her man by promoting his well-being.

I am my beloved’s, and upon me is his desire. (Son 7:10)

This is the third time in the Song of Solomon this women has said something like this but now she has gotten it right. At first it was all about her, now, finally, she has realized that it is all about him and his will being done in her.

And thirdly, when she encourages her man to pursue righteousness. Noah’s wife and family were not saved from the flood because of her, or their, righteousness but only because of Noah’s. It was Noah who “walked with Elohim.”

But Noah found grace in the eyes of YHVH. This is the genealogy of Noah. Noah was a righteous man, perfect in his generation. Noah walked with God. (Gen 6:8-9)

So He destroyed all living things which were on the face of the ground: both man and cattle, creeping thing and bird of the air. They were destroyed from the earth. Only Noah, and those who were with him in the ark, remained alive. (Gen 7:23)

I wonder how many times during the building of that ark Noah’s wife wanted to scream out, “What will the neighbors think?!” or “Why don’t you get a REAL job!” But instead she encouraged her man to follow YHVH wholly, even when it did not make sense to her.

If YHVH does not change, and he does not and if His word endures forever, and it does; why do we think the second destruction of the earth will be any different from the first? Even Yeshua said,

But as the days of Noah were, so also will the coming of the son of man be. For as in the days before the flood, they were eating and drinking, marrying and giving in marriage, until the day that Noah entered the ark, and did not know until the flood came and took them all away, so also will the coming of the son of man be. (Mat 24:37-39)

Being under a husband or a father is the place of safety given by Elohim.

What is the one thing that “a widow” and “the fatherless” have in common? Here is a hint – Their man has died! Speaking to the sons of Israel YHVH says,

“You shall neither mistreat a stranger nor oppress him, for you were strangers in the land of Egypt. “You shall not afflict any widow or fatherless child. If you afflict them in any way, and they cry at all to Me, I will surely hear their cry; and My wrath will become hot, and I will kill you with the sword; your wives shall be widows, and your children fatherless. (Exo 22:21-24)

Wow! The sons of Israel are commanded to care for the widows and fatherless (not motherless) children because they have no covering. So don’t we have to ask ourselves “what happens if a woman afflicts her own children by making them fatherless?” Do we really believe that the penalty will be any less severe if a woman leaves her covering, steals the children from her man and effectively makes his children fatherless? The world treats the label of “single mom” like it is a badge of honor when, in reality, it is a mark of deep shame because she is uncovered and has done the same to his children. Where in Moses and the prophets is a righteous single woman ever alone, uncovered and happy about her situation? This is happening every day in the united States, and the bulk of the people on the broad road see no problem with this kind of behavior; but that is because there is no fear of Elohim (God) in them.

A Psalm of David the Servant of YHVH. An oracle within my heart concerning the transgression of the wicked: There is no fear of God before his eyes. (Psa 36:1)

My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge. Because you have rejected knowledge, I also will reject you from being priest for Me; because you have forgotten the law of your God, I also will forget your sons (benai, the heads of the household). (Hos 4:6)

YHVH did not forget Noah’s sons because, as we saw earlier, he walked with Elohim.

On the very same day Noah and Noah’s sons (benai), Shem, Ham, and Japheth, and Noah’s wife and the three wives of his sons with them, entered the ark. (Gen 7:13)

Perhaps it is in preparation for the destruction of the earth, that in the last days the hearts of the fathers are turned to their sons and the hearts of the sons are turned back to their fathers.

Behold, I will send you Elijah (possibly the 144,000 as a group) before the coming of the great and dreadful day of YHVH. And he will turn the hearts of the fathers to the sons (benim, plural of ben, can be both adolescent and adult sons) , and the hearts of the sons to their fathers, lest I come and strike the earth with a curse. (Mal 4:5-6)

Notice: these biological sons are coming back to their fathers, not their mothers. They are coming to have the covering that they need. My prayer is that my daughter will also return to me with my sons. Neither sons nor daughter can ever covered by an uncovered mother.

Is it possible that the reason seven woman would want to join themselves to one man is because they need the covering and they desire the status (some will be great in YHVH’s kingdom) that these men will have. Remember, when Abigail stayed with her Nabal (even to the point of being willing to die in his place) she built the character in herself to win a David; and she was his third wife. Does anyone really think that a man of David’s caliber would even be interested in a woman who left her man and stole his children. In your dreams!

And in that day seven women shall take hold of one man, saying, “We will eat our own food and wear our own apparel; only let us be called by your name, to take away our reproach.” (Isa 4:1)

If a man takes another wife, he shall not diminish her food, her clothing, and her marriage rights. (Exo 21:10)

I have searched Moses and the Prophets many times to find even one example of a righteous woman leaving her man and taking his children and have yet to find even a single instance.

I know many people are just furious with me now and I will probably lose more friends over this blog also; I understand they have all sorts of reasons why they left their Nabal but the Creator never gives a reason for a woman to leave her man.

For many of these women there is no going back to their man because they have already been intimate with another man.

“When a man takes a wife and marries her, and it happens that she finds no favor in his eyes because he has found some uncleanness in her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce, puts it in her hand, and sends her out of his house, when she has departed from his house, and goes and becomes another man’s wife, if the latter husband detests her and writes her a certificate of divorce, puts it in her hand, and sends her out of his house, or if the latter husband dies who took her as his wife, then her former husband who divorced her must not take her back to be his wife after she has been defiled; for that is an abomination before YHVH, and you shall not bring sin on the land which YHVH your God is giving you as an inheritance. (Deu 24:1-4)

But for some, humbling yourselves through heartfelt repentance and trying to return to your man (husband or father) goes a long way in demonstrating, by your deeds, that you are serious about being a righteous woman.

Of course my goal is not to lose friends but rather to save families and in doing so to promote righteousness on the earth.

Husbands, learn righteousness, do righteousness and teach righteousness to your families and be some of the great ones in YHVH’s kingdom; love them enough to lead them in the ways they should go so they will have neither spot nor wrinkle.

Wives, serve your husbands, follow them and encourage them to follow YHVH wholly. Don’t you ever divorce your man; he is appointed for you by the Father. Is life going to be easy and fun if you are married to a Nabal? Probably not, I guess that is part of reaping what you have sown. But, can your circumstances be used by YHVH to mold you and fashion you to be a better vessel for YHVH’s kingdom and your man? The answer is yes! And should YHVH take away your Nabal you will be that much closer to being ready for your David.

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