A Woman’s Place … (Part 2)

woman's place of safetyThis is part two of the original blog called “A Woman’s Place of Safety Part 1

“A Woman’s Place” – These are Fighting Words!

“A woman’s place!” Why is that such a problem? I struggled for years to find my place in Yehovah’s created order. I would like to think that every woman secretly desires to  understand a woman’s place within His created order.

In part 1 we saw that a woman’s place of safety was always under the authority of her man (most often her father or husband).

To the woman He said: “I will greatly multiply your sorrow and your conception; in pain you shall bring forth children; your desire shall be for your man (eesh), and he shall rule over you.” (Gen 3:16)

A Woman’s Place Is To Serve Only Her Man

Secondly, a Woman Of Worth serves her man by promoting his well-being, not her own.

I am my beloved’s, and upon me is his desire. (Son 7:10)

This is the third time in the Song of Solomon this women has said something like this but now she has gotten it right. At first it was all about her, now, finally, she has realized that it is all about him and his will being done in her.

Noah’s Woman Found Her Safe Place

And thirdly, a woman is in a safe place when she encourages her man to pursue righteousness. Noah’s wife and family were not saved from the flood because of her or their righteousness, it was because of Noah’s righteousness. It was Noah who “walked with Elohim.”

But Noah found grace in the eyes of Yehovah. This is the genealogy of Noah. Noah was a righteous man, perfect in his generation. Noah walked with Elohim. (Gen 6:8-9)

So He destroyed all living things which were on the face of the ground: both man and cattle, creeping thing and bird of the air. They were destroyed from the earth. Only Noah, and those who were with him in the ark, remained alive. (Gen 7:23)

I wonder how many times during the building of that ark Noah’s woman wanted to scream out, “What will the neighbors think?!” or “Why don’t you get a REAL job!” But instead she encouraged her man to follow Yehovah wholly, even when it did not make sense to her.

If Yehovah does not change, and he does not, and if His word endures forever, and it does; why do we think the second destruction of the earth will be any different from the first? Even Yeshua said,

But as the days of Noah were, so also will the coming of the son of man be. For as in the days before the flood, they were eating and drinking, marrying and giving in marriage, until the day that Noah entered the ark, and did not know until the flood came and took them all away, so also will the coming of the son of man be. (Mat 24:37-39)

Being under a husband or a father is the woman’s place of safety which was given to her by Elohim.

What is the one thing that “a widow” and “the fatherless” have in common? Here is a hint – Their man has died! Speaking to Israel’s seed (perversely know as “the children of Israel”) Yehovah says,

“You shall neither mistreat a stranger nor oppress him, for you were strangers in the land of Egypt. “You shall not afflict any widow or fatherless child. If you afflict them in any way, and they cry at all to Me, I will surely hear their cry; and My wrath will become hot, and I will kill you with the sword; then your women shall be widows, and your children, fatherless. (Exo 22:21-24)

Wow! Israel’s seed are commanded to care for the widows and fatherless (not motherless) children because they have no covering. So don’t we have to ask ourselves “what happens if a woman afflicts her own children by making them fatherless?” Do we really believe that the penalty will be any less severe if a woman leaves her covering, steals her man’s children and effectively makes his children fatherless?  Does that woman have place in Yehovah’s created order? The world treats the label of “single mom” like it is a badge of honor when, in reality, it is a mark of deep shame because she is now uncovered and has done the same to her man’s children. Where in Moses and the prophets is a a woman of worth ever alone, uncovered and happy about her situation? This is happening every day in the united States, and the bulk of the people on the broad road see no problem with this kind of behavior; but that is because there is no fear of Elohim (God) in them.

A Psalm of David the Servant of Yehovah. An oracle within my heart concerning the transgression of the wicked: There is no fear of Elohim before his eyes. (Psa 36:1)

My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge. Because you have rejected knowledge, I also will reject you from being priest for Me; because you have forgotten the Torah [instructions] of your Elohim, I also will forget your sons (benim, your seed). (Hos 4:6)

Yehovah did not forget Noah’s sons because, as we saw earlier, he walked with Elohim.

On the very same day Noah and Noah’s sons, Shem, Ham, and Japheth, and Noah’s woman and his son’s women with them, entered the ark. (Gen 7:13)

Perhaps it is in preparation for the destruction of the earth, that in the last days the hearts of the fathers are turned to their sons and the hearts of the sons are turned back to their fathers.

Behold, I will send you Elijah before the coming of the great and dreadful day of Yehovah. And he will turn the hearts of the fathers to the sons (benim, plural of ben, can be both adolescent and adult sons) , and the hearts of the sons to their fathers, lest I come and strike the earth with a curse. (Mal 4:5-6)

Notice: these biological sons are coming back to their fathers, not their mothers. They are coming to have the covering that they need. My prayer is that my daughter will also return to me, and my sons to Yehovah. Neither sons nor daughter can ever be covered by an uncovered mother.

Seven Women Seek To Find A Woman’s Place Of Safety

Is it possible that the reason seven woman would want to join themselves to one man is because they need the covering and they desire the status (some will be great in Yehovah’s kingdom) that these men will have? Remember, when Abigail stayed with her Nabal (even to the point of being willing to die in his place), she built the character in herself to win a David; and she was his third wife. Does anyone really think that a man of David’s caliber would even be interested in a woman who left her man and stole his children? In your dreams!

And in that day seven women shall take hold of one man, saying, “We will eat our own food and wear our own apparel; only let us be called by your name, to take away our reproach.” (Isa 4:1)

If a man takes another wife, he shall not diminish her food, her clothing, and her marriage rights. (Exo 21:10)

A Woman’s Place Is Always To Be With Her Man

I have searched Moses and the Prophets many times to find even one example of a woman of worth leaving her man and taking his children and have yet to find even a single instance.

I know many people are just furious with me now and I will probably lose more friends over this blog also; I understand they have all sorts of reasons why they left their Nabal but the Creator never gives a reason for a woman to leave her man.

Unfortunately, for many of these women there is no going back to their man because they have already been intimate with another man.

“When a man takes a woman and master’s her [baals her], and it happens that she finds no favor in his eyes because he has found some uncleanness in her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce, puts it in her hand, and sends her out of his house, when she has departed from his house, and goes and becomes another man’s woman, if the last man detests her and writes her a certificate of divorce, puts it in her hand, and sends her out of his house, or if the the last man dies who took her as his woman, then her former man who divorced her must not take her back to be his woman after she has been defiled; for that is an abomination before Yehovah, and you shall not bring sin on the land which Yehovah, your, Elohim is giving you as an inheritance. (Deu 24:1-4)

But for some, humbling yourselves through heartfelt repentance and trying to return to your man (husband or father) goes a long way in demonstrating, by your deeds, that you are serious about being a woman of worth.

Of course my goal is not to lose friends but rather to save families and in doing so to promote Yehovah’s created purpose on the earth.

Husbands, learn righteousness, do righteousness and teach righteousness to your families and be some of the great ones in Yehovah’s kingdom; love them enough to lead them in the ways they should go so they will have neither spot nor wrinkle.

Wives, learn what the woman’s place is, serve their husbands, follow them and encourage them to follow Yehovah wholly. Don’t you ever divorce your man; he is appointed for you by Yehovah for you good! Is life going to be easy and fun if you are married to a Nabal? Probably not, I guess that is part of reaping what you have sown. But, can your circumstances be used by Yehovah to mold you and fashion you to be a better vessel for Yehovah’s kingdom and your man? The answer is yes! And should Yehovah take away your Nabal, you too will be that much closer to being ready for a David.

Go to part 3 – Should A Woman Ever Leave Her Man?